The Likeablity Factor

I guess I had my share of being Mr.Nice guy or Mr. Congeniality wayback during college.. which is like 30 yrs ago? hehe! joke! But however, everything change when I went out to the real world.. which is in the workplace.. I guess it forever change my perspective and everything changed. (courtesy of my 1st job experience- a hellish ride)

People are rude, arrogant and completely not... NOT LIKEABLE. Well it makes sense since I'm in sales, people are competitive and the managers are like monsters.. its a dog eat dog world and they will swallow you whole if you let them. But deep inside, I still have some remnants of that old me, so I guess I need to review this pointers? nah.. I'll think about it! hehe! Besides, Im not some insecured person who wants to be like by everybody, besides.. you cannot please eveybody right.. why try? Nwei just wanna share this article from yahoo.


Increase Your Likeability Factor

To be heard you have to make people like you. You need to create chemistry with your staff as a manager, with your team as a project leader, with your boss, with your customer, with your strategic partners. People believe people they like. That’s not a news bulletin. Great communicators develop the “likeability factor”—your personality and the “chemistry” you create between yourself and others.

Just as many roads lead to success in the workplace, many different personalities attract followers. But the following traits seem universally to attract people and open their minds and hearts.

Be Vulnerable, Show Your Humanity

In speaker training 101, people learn to tell failure stories before success stories. Generally, audiences have more in common with those who struggle than those who succeed in life. If you worry about whether your teen will graduate from high school without getting involved with the wrong group, say so. If your father-in-law drove you nuts during the holiday weekend, it’s okay to mention to your colleagues on Monday morning that you might not have been the storybook spouse. If you lose a customer, regret it rather than excuse it. If you miss a deadline, repair the damage and catch up.People respond to humans much more favorably than machines. When you communicate with colleagues, never fear to let them see your humanity.

Be Courteous—Remember to Kick the

In and day out, it’s the small things that kill our spirit: The sales rep who empties his cold coffee and leaves the splatters all over the sink. The manager who uses the last drop of lotion and doesn’t refill the container. The analyst who walks away from the printer, leaving the red light flashing “paper jam.” The boss who walks into the reserved conference room in the middle of a meeting and bumps everybody out for an “urgent” strategic planning meeting. The person who cuts in line at the cafeteria cash register. The guy who answers his cell phone and tries to carry on a conversation out loud in the middle of a meeting.

As a result, even the smallest courtesies kindle a fire that ignites chemistry and builds kinship. The courtesy of saying “hello” when you come into the office after being away. The courtesy of letting people know when you’re going to be away for an extended period. The courtesy of honoring policies about reserving rooms, spaces, and equipment for activities. The courtesy of a simple “please”, “thank you”, and “you’re welcome” for small favors.

Share a Sense of Humor

No matter whether people agree or disagree with George W. Bush’s political positions they typically admire his self-deprecating humor. At one of the Washington correspondent’s dinners, that ability to poke fun at himself seemed to be the primary thing the media responded to favorably. Bush said at the lectern, “I always enjoy these events. But why couldn’t I have dinner with the 36 percent of the people who like me?” At one such event, Bush even brought along his “double” comedian Steve Bridges, to make fun of his frequent mispronunciations. The double modeled for him one of his most difficult words to pronounce correctly, “Nu—cle—ar proliferation … nu—cle—ar proliferation. Nu—cle—ar proliferation.” Then Bush tried it, “Nu-cle—ar pro-boblieration.” The crowd went wild.
Self-deprecating humor can open hearts and minds to make people receptive to ideas in ways words alone cannot.

Show HumilityPower can be seductive.

Praise pushes people’s buttons, elevating peer pressure to feel important. And just as suddenly as lightning strikes, an act of arrogance can destroy an otherwise credible communicator. For example: Refusing to acknowledge people when they speak to you. Failure to respond to people’s suggestions. Haughty body language. Time spent only with those of your “rank and ilk” at a social gathering. An amused smirk in response to an idea expressed in a meeting. An upward roll of the eyes meant to discredit someone’s comment in the hallway. A talk jam-packed with jargon meant to confuse rather than clarify. Insistence that things must be said one way and one way only.

Credible communicators show humility in innumerable ways:

-They let others “showcase” by delivering key messages instead of always having to be “on stage” themselves

-They let others feel important by “interpreting,” “passing on,” and “applying” their goals and initiatives.

-They get input from others—and consider that input worthy of a response. (They don’t ask for input “just for drill” if they don’t plan to consider it.)

-They excite others by asking for their help, cooperation and buy-in

-They share the limelight by telling stories about star performers

-They share leadership roles by telling success stories of other leaders

-They communicate awareness and appreciation of the efforts and results of other people

Certainly, credibility involves a balancing act between establishing a noteworthy track record and fading away into the furniture. People do want to know that you know what you’re talking about. But arrogance antagonizes them. Expertise tinged with a touch of humility goes down far better.

Your look, language, and likeable personality will have a huge impact on whether people accept what you say. If your message isn’t sinking in … if you’re not getting the action you want … maybe you should take it, well … personally.

Moschino- I Feel Dandy

Love my new watch from MOSCHINO. I dont have any plans on buying another watch this days but when I saw this model.. I was in awe, so I bought it right away. For my watches.. I dont go for the usual dull and boring watches.. no matter how expensive it is! but instead I love new, the unique and innovative designs such as this.

Sunset shots

SUPER DOG

Saw the vid from you tube and just wanna share here. Its heartwarming scene and I admire the homeless dog's courage,he risk his own life through that busy streets just to save another dog. I mean he is just a dog but he shows and teach us how to be compasionate.

Al Kout

Last Friday we went to Fahaheel's Al Kout Mall. Since most of us already have "THE DSLR" we had great time.. clicking ang posing. Really memorable experience. I lost my lens cap though.

check my fave pix at my flickr @
http://www.flickr.com/photos/aztig_ako/

Since blogger cant post to large files.. I just posted it in my multiply site.
http://aztigako.multiply.com/

Doing some stunts

With my fellow clickers

After an exhausting day.. we went to Dunkin Donuts and sip some hot coffee.

Random shots

Nikon D60 Shots!

comments.. comments

Finally- NIKON D60

After months of sleepless nights, finally bought a DSLR camera. Its a hard choice actually since I also want the 12megapixels- Canon 450D. However, what made me decide is the price. Nikon is much cheaper but armed with the same feats, I also saw a sample pix from Nikon and I was amazed by the sharpness and details compared to the sample pix from the other brand.

The thing with it... I was overwhelmed with the manual.. Lots of jargons and its quite confusing for first time SLR user like me. I've research lots about it but still quite difficult. Anyway, Im enjoying my new toy and hopefully in the near future I can utilize all its feats. Now? Im still in the "getting to know" stage. Its fun!

MY B-DAY at TGI FRIDAY'S

Joint Bday with Julius at TGI Friday's at the Marina Crescent in Salmiya. I'll add more photos soon.

Got hard times with blogger lately..

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http://juliusnino.multiply.com







The 4 J's

Me and Berns

Dariel, Jan, Joyce and Me

B-day cake

Group pic

Picture picture

Another online personality quiz

Got problem with my connection that's why I cannot post new pics.. that's sad! nwei i just uploaded it to my multiply site.. just visit it.. http://aztigako.multiply.com/ anyhow, just enjoy yourself with this online personality quiz.. its fun!

Your Personality Is Like Cocaine

You're dynamic, brilliant, and alluring to those who don't know you. Hyper and full of energy, you're usually the last one to leave a party. Sometimes your sharp mind gets the better of you... you're a bit paranoid! At your best: You're confident, euphoric, and feel like you're on top of the world. What people like about being around you: You're intense and overpowering. What people dislike about being around you: You can be arrogant... and a bit of a jerk. How addicted people get to you: Incredibly addictive. And hanging around with you isn't cheap!

What Drug Is Your Personality Like?

Entertainment City- Doha

Its holiday of Eid Fitr here in the Middle East.. a four day feast after a month long fasting during the holy month of Ramadan. There's no work for 4 days and we are tired of counting all the cobwebs from the four corner of our rooms so we decided to go to Entertainment City.. a theme park like the Enchanted Kingdom. Actually its not a planned one.. just last minute decision and we got into lots of hazzles since all in a hurry. But all in all, its fun.

Posing muna bago ang lahat.

Our first ride.. not bad!

THE SPACE NEEDLE.. the most boring of all, nice view though.

Picture taking inside an alien spaceship

THE TORNADO... I think its much worst than a tornado.. more like a hurricane. Look at it.. its spinning like hell. Imagine your inside it. Actually, just by looking at it... I said no! but my friends insist and besides it looks fun after all.. a decision I regret while I was riding it.

Good thing my stomach was empty that night. That would be a huge disaster. Just by looking at the pics makes me dizzy. Actually the last few minutes was hell and I close my eyes and keep silent. My seat mate jan.. shout at me coz he thought that I was dead haha! I said to him that I was fine and I was just meditating.. hehe I know its lame. Nice experience though.

THE LIGHTNING.. so fast! I enjoyed it!

Imagine we can still smile after all the rounds of dizzying rides, cant believe!

Our last ride.. Its like a wild river.. forgot the name. we're all wet socks and all it's really uncomfortable. The last time I went home with a wet socks was during college.. I passed a flooded Espana the water was high as my knees, there's a major traffic and all vehicles were stucked not moving even an inch, so I decided to walk instead.. eventually I walked from Espana all the way to North Avenue coz of the major trafic all over the city. I called home and a car picked me up. that was really unforgetable, that was 1998. Good thing I enjoyed this one.

Check more pics coming.